What if what you call “normal” were merely a code of obedience learned in childhood?

Anastasia Beschi
One might assume that what we call “normality” arises from a shared self-evidence: a common foundation of behaviours, reactions and patterns of thought found across individuals and cultures. A kind of spontaneous regularity observable in the ways people behave, speak and feel. Yet when we examine how the term is used—in everyday life, institutions, media and educational discourse—it becomes clear that normality is less an objective state than an implicit norm. It is not a given, but a reference point that is transmitted, internalised and rarely questioned. Far from being universal or natural, this reference point appears closely connected to mechanisms of adjustment, adaptation and, at times, internalised obedience. From the earliest stages of socialisation, a child learns to position themselves within a world structured by the expectations of others: parents, teachers and peers. What the child expresses, perceives and understands is filtered, corrected, encouraged or discouraged according to whether it aligns with what is expected.
The child learns very early to adjust their attention, regulate their emotions and reformulate their intuitions so that they fit within the boundaries of acceptable behaviour. This process of alignment rarely operates through direct coercion. Instead, it takes place through a subtle system of feedback—glances, tones of voice and social approval—that gradually shapes the experience of what is considered “appropriate”, “acceptable” and “normal”.
This is neither a conspiracy nor the product of an oppressive intention, but an ordinary collective dynamic. It relies upon a form of adaptive intelligence that allows individuals to integrate into a group, maintain fluid interactions and avoid rejection or misunderstanding. Yet this dynamic carries a cost: it conditions perception long before the individual acquires the capacity to reflect upon it. What is perceived as “reality” has already been organised according to a particular optical framework—what, within **Psychooptic**, might be described as a shared structure of intelligibility. In other words, what we call “normal” corresponds less to what exists in itself than to what has been learned as legible, comprehensible and, above all, non-threatening to the shared framework. Through this lens, normality takes the form of an implicit code. A code transmitted not as content, but as a calibration of perception. It does not say, “This is what you must think,” but rather, “This is what you are permitted to notice.” What we identify as “abnormal”, then, may not be inherently deviant or disturbing. It may simply lie outside the frame—unanticipated by the parameters of focus internalised since childhood. The question, therefore, is not what normality is in itself, but how it becomes established, how it is learned and, above all, what it prevents us from seeing. For what we call “seeing the world as it is” may be nothing more than the repetition of a way of observing learned very early within a world that required stability more than truth.

Normality Is Not Neutral—It Is Learned

We often think of normality as self-evident: a form of shared common sense, a reasonable way of behaving that we follow naturally. It appears obvious, almost as though it were embedded in the logic of the world. Yet when we step back, we begin to see that what we call “normal” is not a raw fact, but a collection of perceptual habits and behaviours learned from an early age. In other words, normality is not a state—it is a process of learning. From childhood, the individual learns to enter a world structured around implicit expectations. We learn to look at what others look at, to name things as we have been taught to name them, and to interpret emotions, gestures and silences through pre-existing cultural reference points.
This is less a conscious choice than a gradual adaptation. We learn how to inhabit the world by learning what should be noticed, felt and valued—but also, often without realising it, what is better left unseen or unexpressed. Within this dynamic, whatever becomes “normal” is simply whatever is repeated around us with sufficient consistency and collective recognition to appear self-evident. This is not a criticism of society, but an observation: every human group requires regularity, shared reference points and implicit rules in order to function and coexist. Normality fulfils this stabilising role. Yet it remains a construction. What we internalise as “obvious” is often the result of a long process of exposure through education, language, images and everyday interactions. Once we have been exposed to it for long enough, we cease to perceive it as a framework and begin to experience it as reality itself.
This is where the Psychooptic perspective becomes valuable. It invites us to question not the content of our thoughts, but the calibration of our gaze. It encourages us to ask whether what we regard as “self-evident” is genuinely shared by everyone—or whether it merely reflects one particular way of organising perception. The purpose is neither to reject normality nor to denounce it as false. It is to recognise that what we consider normal is neither universal, fixed nor neutral. It is a transmitted perspective, often conveyed without explicit intention, yet with considerable effectiveness. Understanding this allows for greater nuance—towards ourselves and towards those who see or feel differently. Ultimately, what we call “normal” may simply be what we have learned to see. And what we do not yet see, or what unsettles us, is not necessarily “abnormal”—it may simply represent another way of relating to the world.

Obedience Begins with Seeing the Way One Is Expected To

The idea of obedience immediately evokes submission to authority, compliance with rules and the alignment of behaviour with an external norm. Within the collective imagination, to obey is to do what one is told—to follow an order, whether explicit or implicit. Yet this definition remains superficial. Before we can obey anything, we must first recognise what is to be obeyed. And this recognition does not rest solely upon will or rationality. It is rooted in a prior perception of the world, within an already established framework that organises what is visible, thinkable and relevant. In other words, before we obey with the body, we have already obeyed with the gaze.
What the Psychooptic perspective reveals is that perception itself constitutes a form of pre-obedience. Not an obedience imposed from outside, but a preconfiguration of the attentional field that renders certain things visible while leaving others inaudible, invisible or unintelligible. Seeing is never a neutral act. It always means seeing “as one should”—according to the parameters of a system already in place. Yet this system does not present itself as an instruction to be followed. It operates beforehand, making certain things appear obvious, natural and normal, while rendering others absurd, confusing or illegible. From their earliest interactions with the world, children learn what is seen and what remains unseen. This is not a form of brutal conditioning, but a gradual adjustment to the expectations of their environment. A gaze held too long upon something considered unimportant, an emotion expressed at an inappropriate moment, a question that causes discomfort: each of these micro-events is regulated by the responses of those around them. Through this process, the gaze is formed—but it is formed from the outside. We learn to focus upon what is validated, to turn away from what is marginal and to interpret the signals of the world through a shared framework.
Obedience therefore does not begin with action. It begins with optical alignment. We learn to look in the “right” direction and to read the world as we are expected to. What we later call “common sense”, “logic” or “realism” is often merely the continuation of this initial calibration of attention. It is not so much that the individual chooses to obey; rather, the alternatives remain imperceptible. There is nothing pathological about this mechanism. It is profoundly human. It enables coordination, coexistence and transmission. Yet it also creates a paradox: the more effective perceptual obedience becomes, the less visible it is. The earlier it is established, the more natural it appears. The individual does not feel constrained. They simply feel that this is “how things are”. This is why attempts to question the established frame—whether through art, science or personal intuition—often provoke discomfort or even resistance. They do not merely contradict an idea: they disrupt the calibration of the gaze. They compel us to see differently what we had believed to be fixed. And this is not always welcomed. For to see differently is already to disobey—not an external authority, but an internal automatism that had come to provide cognitive comfort. From this perspective, obedience is less a form of submission than a perceptual habit. A loyalty to a particular way of framing the world. A coherence with a shared system of recognition. It does not impose itself—it settles in. It does not compel—it directs. It does not punish—it makes things disappear. Here, subtly, lies one of the fundamental questions of consciousness:
Can we perceive what we were never taught to see?
And if so—at what cost?

What Is Considered “Abnormal” Is Often What Escapes the Collective Focus

We describe as “abnormal” whatever appears to deviate from a supposedly stable norm—whatever does not fit within expected frameworks or resists immediate identification. In ordinary usage, the word may denote strangeness as readily as dysfunction, singularity as readily as latent danger. It crystallises a form of social unease: the sense that something is “wrong”, out of place or discordant. Yet behind this spontaneous judgement lies a far subtler mechanism. What is labelled “abnormal” is often not what is objectively different, but what escapes collective attention—what, for one reason or another, cannot be interpreted through the familiar language of the shared gaze.
Psychooptic reframes the question. Instead of searching within an individual’s behaviour or being for a justification for their symbolic exclusion, it examines the group’s own capacity to perceive that individual accurately. In other words, the “abnormal” is not necessarily what disrupts the order of the world. It may simply be what escapes the focus of the moment. Every collective system operates with limited attention: it selects, prioritises and concentrates. It constructs a field of intelligibility in which certain forms, narratives and gestures become visible, while others are relegated to the margins—not for logical or moral reasons, but because they cannot be immediately interpreted through a shared language. The perception of abnormality therefore reveals little, if anything, about the perceived phenomenon itself. It reveals far more about the system observing it: its filters, habits and blind spots. A mind that moves too quickly, an intuition that does not follow established paths, a sensitivity capable of detecting micro-signals overlooked by the majority—each of these may constitute a valuable resource.
Yet they are often classified as “strange”, “excessive” or “irrelevant” simply because they fall outside the collective focus. This phenomenon is all the more powerful because it remains implicit. No one consciously decides to marginalise a particular way of being. It is not an individual choice, but a threshold effect: when a subjective experience cannot be recognised, it slips beyond the frame. The more insistently it attempts to appear, the more likely it is to be perceived not as singular, but as disruptive. Abnormality then becomes an effect of mutual invisibility: the individual cannot understand why they are unable to make themselves heard, while the collective cannot understand what they are attempting to reveal. The power of this mechanism lies in its discretion. It is expressed not through explicit sanctions, but through silences, misalignments and repeated misunderstandings.
The “abnormal” person is often someone who inhabits a different map of the world, yet whose map has no place within the shared plan. This is not a failure, but a collision of optical systems—a discordance between an inner gaze and an external interpretation. From this perspective, reconsidering abnormality does not simply mean establishing broader or more inclusive thresholds. It means recognising that what we call “normal” is conditioned by a dominant focal perspective—and that this perspective is never absolute. It is situated, inherited and partial. Rather than condemning or labelling, we may then become receptive to the complexity of multiple angles. We may begin to understand that what appears to lie “outside the frame” may constitute another frame in its own right—a field of perception we have not yet learned to read.

The Younger We Are, the More Deeply the Optical Code Is Etched

Childhood is often regarded as a period of freedom, spontaneity and even innocence. The child is imagined as an as-yet “unconditioned” being, open to every possibility and untouched by the structures that govern adult thought. Appealing though this vision may be, it overlooks an essential phenomenon: the earliest years of life are precisely when the deepest and least visible conditioning takes place. It is during this period, largely without our awareness, that the fundamental optical framework through which the world will be perceived for decades begins to form. Far from being neutral, the child’s gaze is shaped from the very first interactions. Even before language is acquired, the emotional reactions of others, subtle affective signals, silences and tones of voice begin to determine what is perceived as worthy of attention. The child quickly learns to distinguish what produces a smile, what causes concern, what pleases and what unsettles. In this way, an affective map of perception develops silently: certain elements are brought into prominence, while others are gradually left in shadow.
What Psychooptic seeks to reveal is that this early construction is not merely an acquisition of the “vocabulary of the world”, but a form of perceptual engraving. The child learns not only how to name things, but how to see them—or how not to see them. The earlier this learning occurs, the more stable it becomes and the more resistant it is to subsequent questioning. It is not founded upon ideas that might later be deconstructed, but upon perceptual reflexes embedded long before conscious thought has fully developed. What adults consider their “personal worldview” is therefore often an extension of an inherited optical calibration established during childhood. This produces a sense of perceptual self-evidence: certain things appear naturally important and others insignificant; certain behaviours seem immediately appropriate and others “strange”, even when we cannot explain why.
This hierarchy is the result of an ancient calibration internalised long before we acquired the ability to examine its foundations. The earlier and more consistently a child is exposed to a single framework, the more firmly the gaze becomes fixed around its reference points. It becomes difficult to imagine that another organisation of the world might be possible—not because it is rejected, but because it remains entirely unseen. This is where the notion of the blind spot assumes its full significance. The child who has become an adult has not merely forgotten that they learned to see in a particular way; they are unaware that another way of seeing exists. This does not mean that the optical framework formed during childhood is inherently wrong or defective. To a large extent, it is a strategy of adaptation: learning to notice what makes it possible to be recognised, loved and protected from rejection. Yet this framework operates as a filter so deeply integrated that it becomes almost indistinguishable from identity itself.
Encountering other perceptual systems may then provoke vertigo or even ontological insecurity: If I begin to see differently, who am I then? Understanding this mechanism does not require us to reject everything we have inherited. It simply makes it possible to recognise the conditioned dimension of our gaze and, perhaps over time, to loosen its hold. For although the optical code is etched during our earliest years, it is not irreversible. The gaze can evolve—provided we are willing to question its foundations.

To Rethink Normality Is to Refocus—Not to Re-educate

When a society begins to question what it considers “normal”, its first impulse is often to pursue re-education: to correct deviations, broaden existing frameworks, make the margins more inclusive and redefine norms according to criteria that appear more flexible, equitable and open. Although seemingly progressive, this approach rests upon an implicit assumption: that normality is a rational category that can be modified from within and revised through reasoned principles.
Yet the Psychooptic perspective suggests that normality is not content to be corrected, but an angle to be shifted. In other words, normality is not re-educated—it is refocused. The distinction is fundamental. Attempting to correct normality implies that a central definition of it still exists, even if that definition is broadened or relaxed. It amounts to saying: “We defined the norm incorrectly; let us redefine it more inclusively.” Yet this approach remains confined within the very structure it seeks to transform. It continues to operate from a fixed perceptual centre, even when its parameters are altered. It does not question the existence of the centre itself: the shared logic of intelligibility and the tacit expectation governing what should be seen, felt and valued. It remains concerned with what is perceived without examining how that perception became possible.
According to Psychooptic, the problem lies not so much in what we consider normal, but in how we came to consider it normal. The essential question concerns not the content of the norm, but the process through which the collective gaze became focused around a particular form of intelligibility. Rethinking normality therefore requires not the imposition of new standards, but the destabilisation of the gaze’s initial fixation. It means recognising that whatever appears self-evident—fluid, legible and coherent—is the result of a cultural, historical and emotional calibration. Another calibration would produce another form of intelligibility. This awareness transforms the nature of the debate. The question is no longer whether those considered “different” should explain their difference more effectively, or whether the norm should become more receptive to the margins. It is to understand that every gaze is already a construction, and that what we call “intelligible” is the product of perceptual consensus.
Changing the gaze therefore does not mean adding another category to those already in existence. It means shifting the focal point from which reality becomes legible. Such a shift cannot simply be decreed. It cannot be imposed as an instruction. It requires inner openness, a certain relaxation of habitual optics and an active form of doubt that does not destroy, but creates space. It also demands humility: the recognition that whatever appears “obvious” became so through a process of learning—and that this learning may be partially deconstructed without causing us to lose every point of reference. From this perspective, rethinking normality means neither correcting the margins nor redefining the centre. It means decentring the gaze itself, allowing multiple perceptual movements and permitting forms of intelligibility to emerge that do not immediately correspond to established criteria. It is a practice of controlled defocusing—not an attempt to dissolve into the undifferentiated, but a way of creating the conditions for another kind of clarity: more fluid, more complex and more alive. A simple image may help illustrate this idea: a cylinder observed from two different angles. Viewed from the side, it appears as a rectangle; viewed from above, as a circle.
Each observer insists upon what they see—and each is correct from their respective position. The misunderstanding lies not in perception itself, but in the belief that a single perception exhausts reality. The truth of the cylinder emerges only when we gain perspective, broaden the field of vision and allow the gaze to move around the object. The same applies to normality: for as long as we observe it from one angle alone, whatever departs from that angle will appear “false” or “abnormal”. Only by changing our optical position—by accepting a shift in focal perspective—does the full form of things begin to reveal itself. This shift does not invalidate previous perceptions. It places them within a larger whole. It does not contradict; it completes. And through this subtle expansion of the gaze, it is not only normality that changes, but our way of relating to what we believed we already knew.

Seeing Differently Is Not a Luxury. It Is a Quiet Urgency.

At the end of this exploration, one conclusion comes into focus: far from being an objective state or a mere social habit, normality is a form of collective focus—internalised early, silently stabilised and rarely questioned. Not because it is inherently oppressive, but because it presents itself as self-evident. It does not impose itself—it precedes us. It does not compel—it renders things visible or invisible according to the focal setting.
What Psychooptic proposes is neither a struggle against the norm nor a naïve defence of difference. It offers a working hypothesis: What if our gaze were programmable? What if what we take to be reality were merely a subset of what our attentional structure permits to appear? Not a complete illusion, but a partial truth—constructed and framed. The five points explored here converge upon one idea: our gaze, as it operates in everyday life, is already structured before thought itself intervenes.
To obey is first to see what one is expected to see. To be “normal” is first to overlook whatever escapes the norm. To be “oneself” is often to repeat an inherited focal perspective without realising it. And to broaden the norm without shifting that perspective is to revise a map without ever changing one’s point of view. Let us return for a moment to the image of the cylinder. It is more than a pedagogical metaphor. It reveals something fundamental: truth changes according to the position of the gaze. Not because truth deceives, but because it takes form within the space between perspectives. The rectangle and the circle are not errors—they are versions. What we lack is not the “correct” version, but access to the space connecting them. Likewise, what we call “abnormal behaviour”, “deviant logic” or “confused language” may simply be an attempt to express something from another angle—a perspective that has not yet found a corresponding form within the collective field.
And because the collective field recognises only what it already knows how to read, it responds with silence, rejection or reduction. Not through violence, but through a lack of intelligibility. This lack of intelligibility is the great blind spot of social systems. It is what causes so many dialogues, reforms and attempts at openness to fail. For beneath every debate over content, underlying optical frameworks confront one another in silence. And it is within this silence that the real impasses take shape. Changing society is not enough if the gaze structuring it has not yet learned to observe itself in operation. But how, then, do we attain this “gaze upon the gaze”? Not through force. Not through moral injunction. Not even through intelligence alone. Something else is required: a lighter gesture, a flexibility of attention—and perhaps a form of humour.
For this may be the hidden purpose of Psychooptic: to restore movement to what appeared fixed. To return to the inner eye its capacity to dance, to play with angles and to escape the confines of a framework learned too early. This is not a rejection of what exists. It is an invitation to refocus—gently and lucidly, without renouncing our previous points of reference, but without allowing ourselves to become imprisoned within them. More than a technical or philosophical form of knowledge, this capacity is a form of attentional freedom: a way of inhabiting one’s gaze without mistaking it for an absolute; a way of seeing without identifying completely with what is seen; a way of becoming receptive once again to whatever has remained outside the frame—not because it was false, but because it had not yet been looked at closely enough. Perhaps, then, we should conclude in this way: The task is not to “change the world”. Nor even to “change oneself”. It is to change one’s optical position—and, through that movement, allow forms to emerge that a fixed gaze had rendered impossible. What we call “truth” is not what imposes itself, but what persists in seeking to be seen, even when no one yet knows how to look at it.
Auteur: Anastasia Beschi
15/09/2025 (in French)
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